Before choosing a keyholder, compare relationship goals, the meaning and limits of authority, communication expectations, device responsibility, health plans, privacy, finances, distance, and the process for stopping.

Ask what kind of relationship each person wants and what keyholding is expected to contribute to it

Ask what kind of relationship each person wants and what keyholding is expected to contribute to it.

Request examples of how authority, rules, contact, service, consequences, and ordinary disagreement would work

Request examples of how authority, rules, contact, service, consequences, and ordinary disagreement would work.

Discuss device choice, duration, hygiene, emergency removal, travel, exercise, sleep, and healthcare responsibility

Discuss device choice, duration, hygiene, emergency removal, travel, exercise, sleep, and healthcare responsibility.

Agree on private information, photographs, verification, public disclosure, account security, and any limits around money

Agree on private information, photographs, verification, public disclosure, account security, and any limits around money.

Choose an initial period, check-in schedule, review date, and a respectful method for pausing or ending

Choose an initial period, check-in schedule, review date, and a respectful method for pausing or ending.

Compare answers with behaviour over time and do not let a compelling persona replace ordinary evidence of reliability

Compare answers with behaviour over time and do not let a compelling persona replace ordinary evidence of reliability.